FASTer - Issue #124
🪜Life As Levels. The Friendship Map📍
Whether accurate or not, last year year I came across a pyramid in Arabic that defines the levels of friendship. Since you are known by the friends you keep and that you are the sum of friends around you, this give me a moment to stop, pause and reflect.
Why? Because the lessons in it are profound. If friendship could be as shallow as level 1 and as deep as level 12, what should we be doing to get outcomes that allow us to get to a 12. Do people at level 1 fare worse than at 7? How does this work? How can this be applicable to other aspects of our lives.
But before all that, the mystery 12..
Zameel – someone you have a nodding acquaintance with
Jalees – someone you’re comfortable sitting with for a period of time
Sameer – you have good conversation with them
Nadeem – a drinking companion (just tea) that you might call when you’re free
Sahib – someone who’s concerned for your wellbeing
Rafeeq – someone you can depend upon. You’d probably go on holiday with them
Sadeeq – a true friend, someone who doesn’t befriend you for an ulterior motive
Khaleel – an intimate friend, someone whose presence makes you happy
Anees – someone with whom you’re really comfortable and familiar
Najiyy – a confidant, someone you trust deeply
Safiyy – your best friend, someone you’ve chosen over other friends
Qareen – someone who’s inseparable from you. You know how they think (and vice versa)
How will you invest your time and who with, for better outcomes?
Your outcomes aren’t bad because you aren’t trying hard enough, it’s likely because you aren’t self aware. There is no skill gap, likely a will gap. Some thing I read that changed my view on self awareness is the Johari Window. It is a model of self-awareness developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955. It is a four-quadrant framework that helps us understand how much we know about ourselves and how much others know about us.
The quadrants are:
Open (also known as the arena): This quadrant represents the things that we know about ourselves and that others also know about us. This is the area of our self-awareness that is most visible to others.
Blind (also known as the facade): This quadrant represents the things that others know about us, but that we do not know about ourselves. This area of our self-awareness is hidden from us, but it is visible to others.
Hidden (also known as the hidden self): This quadrant represents the things that we know about ourselves, but that we choose not to share with others. This area of our self-awareness is hidden from others, but it is known to us.
Unknown (also known as the subconscious): This quadrant represents the things that we do not know about ourselves, and that others do not know about us. This area of our self-awareness is hidden from both ourselves and others.
Imagine you are a software developer and you want to make a change to your code. You can't just start randomly typing, because you don't know what the code does or how it works. You need to first understand the code, and then you can make changes to it in a way that is safe and effective.
The same is true for self-awareness. If you want to make changes to your life, you need to first understand yourself. You need to know your strengths and weaknesses, your blind spots, and the things that you are hiding from others. Once you have this self-awareness, you can start to make changes in a way that is effective and sustainable.
Here are some examples of how you can improve your self-awareness:
Ask for feedback from others. The Johari Window is a great tool for getting feedback from others. It can help you to identify your blind spots and to see yourself in a new light.
Meditate. Meditation can help you to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings. It can also help you to detach from your ego and to see yourself more objectively.
Get a Mentor. A mentor can help you to explore your self-awareness in a deeper way. They can help you to identify your patterns and to develop new ways of thinking and behaving.
Self-awareness is the key to personal growth and development. It is the foundation for making positive changes in your life. By improving your self-awareness, you can unlock your full potential and live a more fulfilling life with better outcomes.
One New Thing (That you should know)
Your taste buds have a lifespan 👅 Each of your taste buds lives for about 10 days. How would you change the things that you do in life if their output lasted only ten days? On average, the human tongue has 2,000-8,000 taste buds.[The average lifespan of these is estimated to be 10 days. The way to think about this is, that if 2000-8000 of your actions only compounded to achieve an outcome that lasted for 10 days, would you do things differently? Would you change the way you look at compounding?
Boring Stuff That Scales
Following the money. "Journey of a Dollar" analysis. Basically, when analyzing an industry the first step is mapping how a dollar flows through it. The best tool to apply to find out if some thing is worth doing.
My favorite tool I learned hunting targets at the NSA:
"Journey of a Dollar" analysis.
Basically, when analyzing an industry the first step is mapping how a dollar flows through it.
I map out:
- Who touches the $
- How many they touch
- How long they sit
From this I'm able to… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
— Patrick Campbell (@Patticus)
Aug 8, 2023
What You Should Be Reading(about)
Work from Home — Remote Tutoring Jobs. Earn in USD
Monetize your time
By learning from others. The alleged Business system that teaches you more than a 2 year MBA.
Billionaire investor Dan Loeb believes studying this one company is worth more than a 2-year MBA.
Surprisingly, it isn’t Amazon, Apple, or Berkshire Hathaway.
As one of the all-time best-performing stocks, it’s delivered 4,500%+ returns over the last 25 years.
Let’s dive in!
— Sahil Khetpal (@skhetpal)
Aug 12, 2023
One Last Thing
There is way too much content out there, we spend a lot of our energy trying to browse through things and hardly finding meaningful things to consume. Your brain is what you feed it. I came across great, curated list of 24 podcasts that can serve as a good starting platform for you to find what to feed your brain.
24 must-listen podcasts for startup founders
1) Founder's Journal - @businessbarista
2) My First Million - @thesamparr @ShaanVP
3) @AcquiredFM - @gilbert@djrosent
— Intro (@useintro)
Aug 8, 2023
Bonus! Thought of the week
😩💤Cure boredom whilst learning something new:The New York Times has a new game. “Flashback” requires players to place historic events in chronological order.